People will doubt their own instincts and never take that leap of faith for another person even when the other person is someone who they should stick with for eternity. Why have we become so skeptical? Why have we become so scared of our own insecurities? Well, it’s not entirely our fault. There are lot of broken relationships and stories around and they challenge our faith in relationships and love every day.
Sometimes, the perfect guy is right in front of you, and you shrouded by all your brittle insecurities and hovering fears and are reluctant to go the extra mile with him. Your past has scarred you so badly that you don’t know what to believe. You can’t seem to trust the truth in someone’s words. You think that Love is a lie and something that does not exist for everyone. Well, if you don’t believe in something, you will never be able to find it. Take a risk, it might destroy you but isn’t life all about self-destruction? People die and resurrect every day from the ashes of their past. If you have a man who does the following things, you should definitely hold on to him forever. Trust him to be the guy who touches your naked soul and makes you feel alive.
1. He fights for your love and show Pure respect for you
Sometimes, you are faced with such an emotional trauma in life that you can’t contribute to anything or you even feel like opting out of the relationship, cause have felt that way before. You can’t provide him with care and love and you get distant and quiet. You just lose faith in yourself and you even lose the will to live anymore. Despite all that, he doesn’t give up on you and keeps pushing and fighting for your love. He stays with you, talks to you, listens to you and is adamant. A person who is there for you in your worst is the person who deserves to be with you at your best. People like this don’t come along very often. By doing this, he is demonstrating that he considers your needs to be as important as his own. He will treat you well even when he’s angry, grumpy, or tired. Showing you respect and appreciate that you are entitled to your points of view.
If you ever find such a guy who chooses you every day even when you think that you are not worth someone’s love, please wake up from your slumber and realise what you have before it’s too late. Sometimes people don’t believe in themselves until a certain someone starts believing in them.
2. He Share the same Basic values as you
The most important quality a woman should look for in a man before marrying him is shared values. For example, A man who enjoys going out late with his guy friends frequently may not be the best choice for a woman who values quiet nights at home. A couple should have similar views on life goals, Dream achievement, thoughts on having a family, and similar religious beliefs. The old saying “opposites attract” may be true, but opposites are not always the best choice in someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with a basic value in life is one of the things that keep a couple going.
3. Flexibility (he is flexible)
Marriage or any committed relationship requires the successful blending of two distinct individuals. These two individuals come from families that don’t just disappear after the marriage ceremony. Being able to balance individual, relationship, and family needs, as well as careers and friendships requires not only a strong sense of self, but also the flexibility to understand, relate to, and incorporate the ideas and needs of others. Flexibility is required to handle the inevitable differences that arise between people who grew up in different families, have some different norms and habits, and who may, at various times during the course of the marriage, be required to deal with difficult life circumstances.
Life is difficult for rigid people, married or not. Flexible people can adjust to accommodate the variety of unforeseen circumstances that will inevitably arise over the course of a lifetime. Life is messy, and flexible people can handle a mess. Rather than constantly trying to get life to accommodate, the flexible person tries to accommodate life by understanding the limits of individual control. A flexible partner will be less controlling, more tolerant and. It’s a priceless attribute for a happy marriage.
4. Has a good self-esteem
Although many qualities are important, a good self esteem is not exempted. Having good self esteem is not being arrogant or boastful. These characteristics are usually covering up feelings of insecurity. A man with good self esteem knows and understands himself. He is secure about who he is, and is not threatened by who you are or who you will become. In short, he brings out the best in you and will encourage you in the future. He is less likely to be controlling, possessive and needing “always to be right”. Having good self esteem means he will more likely take personal responsibility for himself and his actions, and also admit when he is wrong. He will tend not to internalize events and other people’s actions inappropriately and will have good personal boundaries.
All of these characteristics are good for you and for a marriage. You will have the ability to be yourself and grow in the ways you want. You will have a marriage that is a partnership, where both people are equally investing in themselves, and their mutual goals and dreams. While life is always a combination of good times and difficulties, a man with good self esteem enhances the good times and makes the difficulties easier to bear!
5. He loves your originality and personality (loves you for you)
Sometimes, there are guys who will try to change you. They want you to be someone who is acceptable to the society. Someone that is acceptable to the society. They have no regard for your originality whatsoever. They just want you to be a cliché and they want you to adapt yourself to the societal stereotypes.
Everybody is a different person. They all have their own weird stuff and unorthodox behavior and no one should be allowed to change that. If you have a guy who accepts you for who you are and doesn’t compel you to be someone else just for the sake of acceptance from this judgmental society, he is someone you can grow with. He makes you feel secure and safe around him and secure about your surroundings. When we are at our home, we can eat what we want, we can blabber weird stuff and we can be ourselves. When you do all those things around a guy and he still loves you then you’ve got a keeper. You should feel lucky. He is someone you can put your trust in. He is not someone you just push away.
6. Man of Integrity
Many women look for confidence, competence, and charm in the men they date, but many overlook the core quality of pure integrity as they choose their life-long mate.
“Self-Esteem” and “Integrity” are vastly different traits. A man may appear sure of himself, sure of what he does, sure of what he wants out of life, and sure of how he treats a woman, but integrity is a crystal clear indicator of whether or not your man is the best catch. Men who possess a solid sense of moral character in all sphere of life—both personally and professionally, about who they are (consistent thoughts, ideas, and actions), and a balanced, grounded and undamaged personality. They also know and honour not only what they want and need from the world, but also are willing to know and honour what you want and need as well.
Men of integrity are also more willing to create and maintain the integrity of the relationship itself, always keeping in mind what will be best for their partner and offspring as much as for himself as part of the partnership or family unit.
7. You can share your silence together even after deep familiarity
When a relationship starts, it’s all sunshine and rainbows. There a lot of things that you don’t know about the other person. Every human has subjective curiosity but when we know about a person completely, we start to lose interest. When there’s nothing left to talk about, we get bored and the relationship just becomes a dull routine.
However, if you have someone in your life whom you can share your silence with, trust me, you have something that people search for their whole lives but are never able to grasp it. When he can talk to you with his eyes and listen to you when you’re not even uttering a word, you have finally found someone who can tolerate you for the rest of your life. You are just sitting next to each other and there is this sweet comfortable silence and you are in love with their presence, which is what true love is.
Love is not about saying the right things or being a sweet talker, love transcend any logical explanation and nothing is rational about finding happiness in someone’s silence.
8. No fight, argument is stronger than the relationship
We all know that there are fights in a relationship. Everyone has their own different opinions and two people in a relationship will not always agree on everything. They are not meant to. I have met many girls who say that they love their boyfriend because he agrees with them on everything they say.
That is just nonsense. There will be arguments and there will be a lot of screaming and shouting. When your boyfriend knows when to stop and is aware that if he crosses this thin line, he will do irreparable damage to your relationship and sacrifices his ego for the relationship, he truly does love you. He doesn’t care about some small thing that incited him. He doesn’t want to verbally or emotionally abuse you ever. He apologizes to you even though it wasn’t his fault because he can’t stay mad at you for long. I tell you hold him tight.
9. His Love is unconditional
If the guy feels horny, he will pretend and become a whole other person and love you up in other to entice you, some will say prove that you love me by sexual indulgence, it a big lie if he tell you that because there is no emotional blackmail in love, sometimes relationships are just based on lust. When someone loves you, they accept you with all their heart. They don’t make you beg and take you for granted. If a guy loves you despite your imperfections, he knows the true meaning of love. It is truly a beautiful thing when someone kills his own ego for the one person he loves. It is a very romantic gesture and not many people are capable of it. You should never take such a person for granted and love him with all your heart because he deserves it. He has worked for your love and it’s not easy for him at times and he needs your support.
If a guy loves you and isn’t just there with you for his own personal desires, he loves unconditionally more than you can imagine.
10. He makes you a part of his life
Everyone needs privacy and personal space. In a relationship, we all know that in order for our individuality to grow, we have to look after ourselves from time to time and our partner should allow that.
However, we shouldn’t just disconnect our partner from everything in our lives. We shouldn’t make major decisions of our life without even consulting our partner. If a guy tries to adjust you in his life and makes an effort to make the people he loves adapt around you, he wants you with himself for a very long time. He sees a future in which you two are together. He doesn’t make major choices of his life without thinking about you.
He knows that his life choices will directly affect your life and he doesn’t want to force you into a life which wasn’t based on mutual consent. He knows that your opinion and your decisions matter as much as his and he would never take a step without taking advice from you. He knows that you are his confidant and you wouldn’t want anything that would make you two have regrets in the future.
A guy who wants you for an eternity has all these qualities but most of all he has faith in you. He has faith in you when no one else really does. It’s because people don’t know you like he does. They just know as much about you as you permit to reveal about yourself in front of them your guy knows that even if at times when you fall short, he will be there to help you out. He does not fear the struggles of life. He is ready to get stuck in love with you forever.
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